In Deep Coaching we frequently use the word ‘unfolding’ and an “unfolding life” when talking about how the transformational process works.

But what does ‘unfolding’ actually mean? And what is an “unfolding life” mean?

Unfolding is what a flower does, as a bud opens and blooms. There appears to be no fixed order to when each petal opens. And at the same time, all the petals work together, a simultaneous movement that signifies the unified nature of the unfolding process.

No one petal stands apart from the rest. No one petal powers ahead, determined to reach its position before the others. Each petal is a part of the overall creation that is unfolding; each an equally valid part of the flower’s final expression.

There is a distinctly non-linear feel to an unfolding life.

For many people this is a difficult transition to make, to shift from perceiving life as a linear movement from point A to B. These people, and you may be one of them, often see the various aspects of their life as separate, with some having more importance or worth than others.

To embrace an unfolding life, we set aside the idea of linearity and separation and replace it with the recognition that no part of our life is separate from the rest— just as the flower has no conception of one petal being separate from or more important than another.

What does this mean for you? 

That all the pieces of your life matter equally. That no single aspect of your life needs to go from A to B without consideration of the whole. In the end, there is only full express of who you are, the total blossoming potential of your Self realized.

You get there neither in a linear nor piece-meal fashion.

If you become fixated on any one part of your life, you may miss the need to allow another part to unfold as it needs to. If you become adamant that one part of your life will happen because you have decided it’s extremely important, you will miss the blossoming potential of another part because of your fixation.

An unfolding life is open, spacious, and highly self-aware. 

An unfolding life pays less attention to the need to move something forward than to the total expression of that life. An unfolding life is aware of the whole, at all times, and trusts life to bring forth the moments and experiences that facilitate the blossoming of various petals.

When left to its own devices, life unfolds.

If you are driving your life, attempting to be the Master of Your Destiny, you will miss the opportunity to partner with life. Life won’t stand in your way, and will even allow you the illusion that you can bend it to your will, but the greatest lives lived have no such need for control.

Cooperate with life’s grand unfolding by allowing your life to unfold within it.

Allow yourself a breath now, to feel how life is unfolding within you.

What wants to happen?
What are you denying?
Where are you allowing?
What are you forcing?

In the scheme of things your earthly accomplishments don’t mean much. But the quality of your being is everything. It is that and only that which reverberates throughout the entire universe.

Let that be your life’s work, and allow it to unfold into its fullest expression!