Can you rest in a place of wanting nothing for your coaching clients?

Not wanting them to think a certain way (because it will help), to experience a certain energy or emotion (because it will help), or to take a particular action (because it will help).

Coaches care, we know that. But the shadow side of caring is your agenda.

And you are, in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways, constantly communicating your agenda (what you want to have happen) to others.

Whether you like it or not, your clients will detect it. Often as a kind of energetic pressure, and they may, in their own way, resist that pressure, if not get turned off from working with you.

Instead, rest in a space of listening deeply to what wants to happen within that person. This is Deep Coaching Practice 6: Attune to your client’s deepest sense of Self and let that lead.

Listen at a surface level to what is being said and asked for, and listen to the depth, and allow what you hear at both levels to influence your thoughts, questions, and actions. If you are not sure which way to go, ask your inner guidance for direction.

The deep listening part is key to dissolving your agenda. When you listen deeply to the voice of another’s deeper Self, it invites that voice to come forward and be heard. And once it becomes heard it becomes known in the mind.

This has an remarkable effect on the way your conversation unfolds!

You will then be influencing the coaching space in ways that support your client, yet keeps the space free from your wants and agendas.